Listen to the Podcast about Perfectionism
What is Perfectionism?
Perfectionism is not necessarily about being 'perfect' or about doing something perfectly. People often refer to a perfectionist as someone who strives to achieve their very best in everything they do. Even researchers in the field may not agree on the 'perfect' definition of perfectionism! However, research often centres round the following definition:
Perfectionism is striving to meet self-imposed, very demanding standards, relentlessly pursued despite negative consequences. It involves basing one's self-worth almost entirely on how well these high standards are pursued and achieved.
Often people who can be described as perfectionists may not recognise that this is indeed at the root of their problems. Perfectionists often present with anxiety, depression, procrastination, social anxiety, eating difficulties and OCD. Behaviours associated with Perfectionism are:
- excessive checking (e.g. reading an email over and over before sending it to check the text is completely 'perfect').
- reassurance seeking
- repeating tasks (e.g. rewriting and editing something over and over)
- list making
- difficulty making decisions
- not knowing when to stop
- excessive organising and tidying
- hating to waste time, and as a consequence, being over-busy
When does pursuing excellence become Perfectionism?
Setting goals and having high standards helps us achieve things in life. There is a difference, however, between a healthy pursuit of excellence and unhelpful perfectionism. When goals and tasks are only achievable at great cost, emotionally and/or physically and socially, perfectionism becomes a problem and can actually impair performance.
What help can be found?
Changing perfectionism is not easy, as one has to weigh the advantages and disadvantages. A person who has unhelpful perfectionism has to first recognise that it is a problem. Self-help books and websites, such as those listed below, can help one identify which areas of perfectionism apply to them and to assess motivation for change. Workshops, counselling and CBT, (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) can help a person begin to address the underlying beliefs and thinking styles that maintain perfectionism.
Antony, M.M. and Swinson, R.P. (2009). When Pefect Isn't Good Enough; Stragegies for Coping with Perfectionism, 2nd edn. Oakland, CA, New Harbinger Publications
Flett, G.L. and Hewitt, P.L. (2002) Perfectionism: Theory, Research and Treatment. Washington DC, APA
Please see list of other self-help references.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bq6QKijC-rs&feature=youtu.be with thanks to NUI Galway (please note that resources referred to in this video are not available to students and staff at Warwick)
The University Counselling Service is available for students and staff of the University of Warwick:
The University of Warwick cannot be responsible for the content of other websites